Wednesday 18 May 2016

Paperback's Pondering's: Why We Need Male Friendship Groups in YA


Paperback's Pondering's is a weekly discussion when I take a topic and well, ponder about it! This week, is all about why I love a strong group of boys in a book.

Last month, I had read two amazing books that really stood out to me. The first was a reread, The Outsiders by S.E. Hinton, and the second was a series, The Raven Cycle by: Maggie Steifvater. Now plot wise, these two books have nothing alike, but for some reason I connected both of them together and recognized that they were both some of my favourite books. I think I now know the reason why, and that is, because I love groups of boys in books!

This seems like a weird topic, but I hope I can explain in as much detail as I can. Basically, a lot of the YA I read contains a female protagonist with female friends. She is supported by her strong group, and then usually a male love interest makes his way into the mix later. Now while I'm all for the girl power, as I can obviously relate to it more, recently I've been really into that sort of brotherly love that you can get from a strong group of boys who share a friendship. It's pretty awesome to see romance take a backseat sometimes.

I can relate this to The Outsiders first. The Outsiders is basically about a group of Greasers in the 50's who struggle with fitting in and protecting their gang from their rivals: The Soc's or "Socials" of the town. The boys make sacrifices for each other and will defend each other no matter what. There are only two minor girl characters in this entire book, with romance only being an itty bitty part of a much bigger relationship. This book really stood out to me because it was refreshing to see boys having as strong of a friendship that we normally see in girl groups.


I absolutely love that books with strong male friendships are less about falling in love and more about helping each other out. There is often a stigma that men do not get emotional and do not show feelings, but these books with male friendships show true heart in friends that often gets overlooked.

Now to The Raven Cycle. The main character of this book is actually a girl, who gains a friendship with "The Raven Boys" and is accepted into their group. While it's awesome to have a variety and see a strong girl in this friendship group, I also love the relationship between the boys. Even though they all come from different backgrounds, they respect and defend each other and understand each other in ways that perhaps a girl couldn't. The friendship relationships actually take over the romantic relationships for me in this book.



I really don't know where I'm going with this, but I just thought I'd share my feelings that a group of boys in a book can really get me hooked and make me really respect a book. It's something that I've only just realized I loved just recently, as it is not often seen in YA. That being said, any friendship is a great friendship if we're being honest here, and it can be the strongest force in a book.

Do you have a favourite fictional friendship group? Give me some rec's!

Emily @ Paperback Princess

11 comments:

  1. I hadn't thought about this before - I guess it's because there's an assumption that most YA readers are female, and therefore would relate more to female characters

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    1. Yeah, which is why I think it's important to recognize the male ya readers sometimes. Ya is for everyone!

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  2. hmmmm. you're right that there aren't many male friend groups in YA. i'd like to see more of that too. i think in American culture men are pushed to be non-emotional and it's seen as "bad" if you're too buddy-buddy with your friends and i think that's not really healthy. that gets reflected in literature. what i'd also loooooooove to see more of is really strong boy-girl *friendships* that stay purely platonic. i've always had many guy friends, even though i wasn't necessarily a tomboy, and i think it's a really great and interesting dynamic that needs to be represented more.

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    2. I totally agree! That's why I really like The Raven Cycle series as it does well with that male/female friendships. Literature needs to do better at showing all types of friendships!

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  3. I LOVE this discussions so much. I'm a bromance obsessed (maybe that's why I love watching K-DRAMAS so much) and my favorite books are also books with male friendships! When we actually do have a few in media, they tend to be superficial friendships with not a lot of substance to it. Just the 'hey dude, how you're doing' kind of thing, you know? But men can be extremely protective and nice towards each other. Plus, not every book has to involve romance! Sometimes, a friendship is much more meaningful!
    Amazing discussion, Emily!

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    1. Thank you Lais! I agree, a lot of male friendships aren't very emotional at all, so it's great when men have an unconditional friendship, it makes everything stronger.

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  4. This is a really cool post, Emily! :)) I've always enjoyed bromance in YA- sometimes even more than I do the female friendships (guess it's the lack of drama, haha). Now that I think about it, yes, YA is in dire need of more male friendship group! You might have forgotten this- or then again you may have not because we didn't get to see it all that much- but what about The Marauders from Harry Potter? That was one cool gang of male friends, if you ask me (Pettigrew excluded LOL)!!

    Ruzaika @ The Regal Critiques

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    1. OMG I can't believe I forgot one of the greatest male friendship groups of all time! I'm so happy you brought that up because it's true, they were such a strong bond and I wish we saw more of their life in the books.

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  5. It's interesting that so many YA authors are female too! I mean, it's really good, obviously! But we definitely need male perspectives too, and MALE FRIENDSHIPS. I totally get what you're saying about this! I tend to think that good depictions of friendship are more important than the romance anyway, so it's always lovely to see that in books. Any kind of bromance makes me really happy. Just ugh. YES. I agree with you so much!

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    1. I definitely would like more of an equal balance when it comes to male/female ya authors, because ya should have no gender! Bromances can honestly make a book 10x better, I live for it!

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