tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post1836276408652097827..comments2024-01-30T17:24:27.175-05:00Comments on Paperback Princess: OCD Awareness Week: My Problems With the Word "Obsession" paperbackprincesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-26154328247050403692020-11-02T16:24:33.385-05:002020-11-02T16:24:33.385-05:00Thanks for reading! It's definitely frustratin...Thanks for reading! It's definitely frustrating. But, as long as we are having these conversations and raising awareness, then hopefully more people will become more aware of the language that they use! paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-6047854901705197782020-11-01T22:54:30.489-05:002020-11-01T22:54:30.489-05:00This is so true. People need to know that saying s...This is so true. People need to know that saying sentences like this makes you more than just 'rude', it is extremely insensitive. It's like saying: "I'm so tired, it feels like I've just had chemotherapy!" I don't understand why people don't think that it's not wrong. I'm so sorry that you've been around people who've said things like this. Thank you for sharing and educating others.<br /><br />Love,<br />thewheelchairteen.home.blogThe Wheelchair Teenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07899163695817618368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-6313569607854972020-10-25T10:28:26.267-04:002020-10-25T10:28:26.267-04:00Thanks for reading, Nicole! I'm glad I could s...Thanks for reading, Nicole! I'm glad I could shed some light on the subject. paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-23345495076552426532020-10-24T22:12:59.342-04:002020-10-24T22:12:59.342-04:00So interesting to read your perspective on this. I...So interesting to read your perspective on this. I honestly would never have thought about using the word obsessed before, so thank you for bringing this to my attention.<br /><br />Nicole @ <a href="http://feedyourfictionaddiction.com" rel="nofollow">Feed Your Fiction Addiction</a>Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08637114079800138680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-79143424492986811492020-10-20T16:15:58.373-04:002020-10-20T16:15:58.373-04:00I totally agree with that, Roberta! The problem wi...I totally agree with that, Roberta! The problem with ableist language is that a lot of it is super sneaky. We have to do the work of looking closely at our language and finding alternatives when needed. paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-62878886274182476452020-10-20T15:37:58.211-04:002020-10-20T15:37:58.211-04:00This was a very needed post. Ableist language is s...This was a very needed post. Ableist language is so subtle sometimes - or so widely used with a different connotation than the one it really has - that we can't even seem to catch ourselves using those words improperly. But if we are decent human beings, knowing that our misusing certain words causes pain to someone else should be reason enough for us to stop.Roberta R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18228840429799100354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-53608374897409430902020-10-18T15:12:13.074-04:002020-10-18T15:12:13.074-04:00Those are some great points, Cee! I think it's...Those are some great points, Cee! I think it's important that we pay attention to the meanings of words and how they evolve overtime. What was once acceptable, may not be now, and it's all about adapting :) <br /><br />I didn't know about the etymology of obsessed! That is kinda cool, and not too far off from my personal definition of the word today. OCD does seem like a haunting disorder sometimes. paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-4077980221974014702020-10-18T10:22:45.768-04:002020-10-18T10:22:45.768-04:00I honestly hadn't thought about using the word...I honestly hadn't thought about using the word 'obsessed' as being a problem - I'll try to be more careful when using it in future. I think it's difficult, sometimes, to re-interpret words which pre-date terms for certain conditions, like obsess pre-dating OCD (that's not an excuse, so much as an explanation to why people may not click at the association, yours truly included.)<br /><br />Btw, after reading this I looked up the etymology (word origin,) and found that it used to mean 'besieged,' 'haunted,' or 'possessed (as if by an evil spirit),' and the current meaning developed in about the 19th Century. I have no idea whether that was in any way interesting, but I nerd out about these things! XD<br /><br />Great post Em :) <3 <3 <3Cee Arr @ Dora Readshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04074909561530525221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-47306499895509671262020-10-17T17:36:22.972-04:002020-10-17T17:36:22.972-04:00I like how you said that we should avoid the defen...I like how you said that we should avoid the defensive nature of humans. If more people were just willing to learn rather than put up a fight, then change could happen a lot sooner rather than later! <br /><br />I definitely slip up too. But apologizing and moving on is the way to go :) Thanks Laura! paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-67371495739241394112020-10-17T17:34:50.615-04:002020-10-17T17:34:50.615-04:00Exactly! Those are all great points, Riv! I'm ...Exactly! Those are all great points, Riv! I'm glad you enjoyed the post :) paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-90367577328274562202020-10-17T17:07:43.504-04:002020-10-17T17:07:43.504-04:00I love this post Emily. I feel like topics like th...I love this post Emily. I feel like topics like this aren't talked about enough. I'm still in the process of phasing out 'crazy' (and other similar words) from my vocabulary after reading a slew of books on the history of madness and mental illness two years ago. It's definitely a slow process and I've slipped up more than once but I want to make a commitment to start phasing out more of these terms. I think it helps a lot to have a ready alternative in your brain and also to let other people know about too, similar to the strategy being used right now to phase out the casual use of "spirit animal" and instead using "patronus" even better something like "kindred spirit" or just avoiding the construction altogether. I definitely think a lot of change is going to happen by kindly bringing the topic up like what you're doing here! By avoiding the defensive nature of humans we can skip right to making things better. The beauty of language is that it's entirely made up based on what the users want so it's just about getting people on board!<br /><br />Laura @BlueEyeBooksLaura @BlueEyeBookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12983345219563729728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-31522549294784763272020-10-17T15:33:34.725-04:002020-10-17T15:33:34.725-04:00This was a great post Emily! I think it really shi...This was a great post Emily! I think it really shines a light on how important it is to be mindful of the language we use especially because ableist language is just normalized. Shining the light on where everyone can improve as a community to important and a good learning moment to hopefully make society more open and welcoming.<br /><br />riv @ <a href="http://smallstainedpages.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">small stained pages</a> Rivhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13108956474967882930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-68565170326248313532020-10-17T09:23:51.162-04:002020-10-17T09:23:51.162-04:00Absolutely! The thing is, these words are so ingra...Absolutely! The thing is, these words are so ingrained in common language that it might take years for them to be taken out of our vocabulary. But, little things we can do like making conscious choices about when we speak and catching ourselves when we slip up, make all the difference.paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-36156097183939942842020-10-17T01:09:43.029-04:002020-10-17T01:09:43.029-04:00Thanks for sharing this, Emily! In the last couple...Thanks for sharing this, Emily! In the last couple of years, I have become more aware of and more careful with the language I use. There are so many words that we use all the time and that we shouldn't because we don't experience what they truly mean. I try to be careful and not use words like insane, crazy, binge, addict, obsession, and some others, but ableist language is so common and seen as "normal" that it's hard. Still, I think we all can and need to do better! <br /><br />Sofia @ <a href="http://https://bookishwanderess.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">Bookish Wanderess</a> Sofia @ Bookish Wanderesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05972768298226671104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-40357132808681872912020-10-17T01:04:09.658-04:002020-10-17T01:04:09.658-04:00Thanks for sharing this Emily! For the last couple...Thanks for sharing this Emily! For the last couple of years, I have been trying to be aware and careful with the language I use. I try to not use words like insane, crazy, binge, obsessed and some other, but ableist language is so common and seen as normal that it's hard. <br /><br />Sofia @ <a href="http://https://bookishwanderess.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">Bookish Wanderess</a> Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11402732090958148815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-88367500700101857272020-10-16T21:12:12.818-04:002020-10-16T21:12:12.818-04:00Thank you Veronika! I appreciate that you try. Tha...Thank you Veronika! I appreciate that you try. That's all any of us can ask. <br /><br />I have also heard about the problems of the word "binge." I've tried to take that word out of my vocabulary, as well as "addict." So many words get adopted into fandom culture, but we fail to realize the implications behind them! paperbackprincesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07446601964387517150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1717251772632628978.post-58964215799156194282020-10-16T18:20:51.751-04:002020-10-16T18:20:51.751-04:00This is such an excellent post, Emily! I have hear...This is such an excellent post, Emily! I have heard about the problem of using "obsessed" and while I try to pay attention to not using it, I'm sure I slip up quite a lot of times. :| Like you said, this word is so ingrained in our everyday language it's difficult to avoid it, but I do believe we should all try our best. If we all paid attention to this, it could become so much less used. <br /><br />The use of obsession reminds me of the way we use "binge" - like, binge watching, or binge reading. I've seen people with eating disorders speak up against the casual use of that world, so that's another one I want to learn to avoid totally. Veronika @ Wordy and Whimsicalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06813427718618609226noreply@blogger.com